Geek Girl Discusses Fictional Couples
Aren't they fun?
So, if you haven't guessed it yet, I'm kind of a media addict. I love movies, video games, books, television shows... just all of it. And one thing I can't help but love, is a darn good couple. You know that couple that the first time they actually start acting like they might be in a relationship soon and you get those excited butterflies and the general "FINALLY!" feeling? That's what I'm talking about. When I think about all my favorites, it's really hard for me to get a specific feel for which one is my ultimate favorite, or even get a top ten. But I'm going to try my hardest, ...for science, you monster.
Just a warning, the following list may contain spoilers, so proceed with caution!
10. Simba & Nala
Oh, those Disney couples. So sickeningly sweet. Simba & Nala not only star in one of my favorite childhood movies,The Lion King, but they are also my very favorite Disney couple. Friends since birth, they were actually betrothed to one another at a young age. Whenever they were young, the two cubs got in tons of trouble and were, in general, quite the rapscallions. Whenever they learned of their possible fate, they shrugged it off as gross and dumb, and left Simba dumbfound saying, "I can't marry her! She's my friend!"
When they were older, and Nala came in search of Simba, the romance blossomed, and everything from then on out changed. The whole "Can You Feel the Love Tonight?" scene is so romantic and beautiful that you almost forget that they are two large predatory cats and not people.
What I've Learned: There is nothing wrong with pushing your lover/mate/snugglebunny, etc. to be a better person. Nala comes to find Simba, and tells him he needs to be king because he deserves to be. She tells him that he is the only one that can save their people. and in turn she is making him save himself. He lives a wonderful life with Timon & Pumba, yes, but he is not living up to his full potential; he's just taking it easy. In the end, that little push let him live a much more fulfilled life, and him trying to be better and saving their people earned her love.
9. Han Solo & Leia Organa
Basically the ultimate geek couple, Han & Leia have always been one of my favorites. If you've been living under a rock, they're two of the main characters from a little film franchise known as Star Wars. You know, space movie with laser swords? Scrolling text? ...anyway...
As a little girl, I always hoped I would have someone love me as much as Han loved Leia. I still get chills when Han is about to get frozen in carbonite and Leia tells him she loves him, and Han simply says, "I know." It's just too much for me to be able to handle.
Both being such charismatic characters, they bumped heads a bit at first, sniping at each other over silly things. It was obvious, however, that there was definitely some tension between them. Leia seemed to always get frustrated with him so easily, would "just as soon kiss a Wookie," yet we all knew she was falling for Han's "scoundrel" like behavior. A collective "I knew it!" was heard when they kissed for the first time, and all was good in the world for a few minutes.
What I've Learned: It's not the end of the world if you get on each other's nerves sometimes. Oftentimes, I'm much harder on the people I care about than the people I don't. (In general, I couldn't care less about what other people do as long as they leave me alone and be quiet.) So, yeah, pick on each other, give your loved one a hard time, so long as it's in good fun for the most part. And if they're being stupid, say, "Hey, I think you're being stupid." They'll appreciate your honesty, even if they do think you're a 'scruffy-looking Nerf herder.' Besides, if you two never get on each other's nerves, and you think "they're just perfect~" then you either: A. Haven't been around them long enough, or B. Are a bit touched in the old brains department.
8. The Tenth Doctor & Rose Tyler
If you are a Doctor Who fan, then you know to get out your hankies, 'cause I'm about to send you on a one way train to 'Feel Town.' In my mind, Rose & Ten are one of the best tragic relationships that have ever been. In the 'New Who', Rose was the Doctor's first new companion back when the Doctor was still in his ninth regeneration. Fans saw their love starting to blossom and it was met with mixed emotions. Then, when the doctor regenerated again, into the "foxy" Tenth Doctor (portrayed by David Tennant), it seemed all but certain that there was going to be a relationship that no one was going to forget. And I don't think I ever will.
The Doctor & Rose have such chemistry, and they enjoy adventuring together; so much so that they both hope the adventures never have to end. But like all of the Doctor's companions, Rose eventually departed, much against her will, as she was pulled into a parallel world, never to see the Doctor again. Or so we all thought. Then we get to that infamous 'Bad Wolf Bay' scene, where we all basically lost our minds. Just as he was about to tell her he loved her, the crack between the two worlds seals, and Rose, the Doctor, and basically everyone watching is left in tears all by themselves.
It's just... too much.Though I know the series is not over, I don't think there will ever be anything on Doc Who that makes me cry as much as that made me cry. I wish I was a Doctor, so I could have two hearts, because they broke mine. I could sure use a spare.
What I've Learned: If you really love someone, you will always do what's best for them, even if it hurts you. Though in the end Rose is taken from him anyway, for a moment the Doctor had a choice: to make Rose go to the world where her mother and father were, live a calm life where he knew she would no longer be in danger, or, let her stay with him like she insisted. He knew that the best thing for her was to no longer be in danger. As much as he loved her, he couldn't bear to see her give up everything for him.
7. TIE: Phoebe Halliwell & Cole Turner
Sometimes you end up with people you never in a million years would suspect. Take Phoebe Halliwell, for example. (I know some people would love to.) She is a super witch, one of the Charmed ones, and even one of her premonitions couldn't have prepared her for all the danger she was going to get into with boyfriend/fiancée/husband, Cole Turner. Phoebe knew he was a lawyer, and therefore cold-blooded already (I kid, lawyers), but what she didn't know was that he was a high demon of the Underworld. It's not one of those star-crossed lovers stories, though. It's more a, "I was going to trick you into loving me so I could kill you and your sisters, but then I fell in love with you" kind of stories.
I loved Phoebe and Cole as a couple. It's just so funny to see their interactions with this odd, opposites attract kind of couple and the way people react to them. Plus, I mean, Julian McMahon, guys...Seriously.
What I've Learned: Love doesn't always come in the package you're expecting. Sometimes, you're thrown off by who you fall in love with. I feel like this one is pretty self explanatory. I mean, Phoebe never planned to fall in love with a demon, and vice versa, any more than you can see yourself falling in love with some people. There are just times when love just sneaks up on you and hexes you right in the patootie.
7. TIE: Piper Halliwell & Leo Wyatt
So, unlike her sister, Piper fell for one of the good guys. Leo is seriously an angel; that's not just a metaphor, he's actually an angel. He is, in fact, the Charmed One's guardian angel, or Whitelighter, as they're called in the show. Piper and Leo are an example of a forbidden sort of love, but in a different way. It's more of a "don't mix work and pleasure kind of thing", I suppose, and Leo is supposed to live a more stoic lifestyle without any of the carnal pleasures. I never really understood the entire thing, myself, as they are eventually permitted to be together.
With Piper and Leo, you automatically know that they're meant to be together from the first time you see them on screen interacting. They have their ups and downs, sure, but for the most part they are sickeningly perfect. You kind of can't help but feel happy when you see them goofily grinning at each other, or making silly jokes or just being disgustingly adorable in general. I mean, they are the best of friends, and I think that's really important.
What I've Learned: It's not just a cheesy thing you say in your wedding vows; your significant other can be your best friend. One of the best things I've learned about love and relationships is that there are so many layers to a happy and stable relationship. (Like an onion.) If you were to ask my personal opinion on what's most important in a relationship, I would one hundred times over say that friendship is what makes a relationship work. I mean, if your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever doesn't laugh at your stupid puns who will? If you are friends with someone, you are going to be truly happy in the long run.
6. Nana Osaki & Ren Honjo
Nana Osaki and Ren Honjo are two punk rockers from Japan in a manga, anime and live action movie all named Nana. Nana is about two girls with the same name who meet by chance... and yadda, yadda, yadda, we're not talking about the whole story (this time ;)). I fell in love with the design and character of Nana Osaki from the moment I set my eyes on her; and when her Sid Vicious wannabe lover came into the picture, I lost my brain and forgot how to function for a little bit (I'm a little obsessed with punk rock). Their love story makes me happy, makes me cry, makes me wish I could have some long lost love I could be reunited with.
Basically, the story with them is this (insanely abridged and simplified): Ren and Nana were in a band together and they fell in love. Ren got an offer to go be a bassist in a band that had just been signed to a big record deal and he couldn't pass it up. Ren asked Nana to come with him; hoping that she would stay with him while he traveled, etc. Nana, being stubborn, did not want to become some boring housewife; she's a singer, dammit, and she wants to get to the big time as a singer, not some arm candy. She lets him go, and they basically have the most brief and heartbreaking goodbye on a train, and they basically completely break everything off. Nana does not want some long distance relationship with a rockstar.
Fast forward and the band that Ren joined, 'Trapnest', is a huge award winning, record selling machine, and Nana is still back home, living in her and Ren's apartment. When Nana finally decides to move to Tokyo of her own accord, she first runs into Nana Komatsu, and history is made. Later on, Nana brings herself to accompany Nana Komatsu, or Hachi, to a 'Trapnest' concert, seeing Ren for the first time in a couple of years. As you watch her watch him with tears in her eyes, you know that true love never dies. And when they are FINALLY reunited, and she sees him in his hotel room (saying she was just going to give him his apartment key, and the key for the padlock around his neck) they meet each other with hugs and tears, sobs and so many emotions, you know that they have true and pure love.
What I've Learned: True love knows no boundaries; if it was meant to be, it will be, as long as you aren't too stubborn to let it. Though Nana and Ren were apart for so long, they never stopped thinking about each other. If it is truly meant to be, and you really love someone, then you can work through any distance or time apart. In the end, all that matters, is that that person has stayed in your heart and mind.
5. Ron Weasley & Hermione Granger
Ron and Hermione, two of the famous trio from Harry Potter, ultimately end up together, much to the disdain of those strange 'Harrimione' fans out there. Ron and Hermione have been through it all with Harry, from troll battles, to the terror of school dances (*cringe*), to ultimately destroying the Dark Lord. No big deal here, they've basically been put through the wringer and ended up a close group of friends. Ron and Hermione ended up a little bit closer than others, basically finding something good from all of the terrible things happening around them.
And through the relationship, they had issues where the terror around them; the decieving, the monsters and sneaking around, all of it, that tried to push them apart. There were a couple times where it almost did. But in the end, all of it bonded them closer, made their relationship stronger, and basically made silly arguments in the future seem trivial and pointless.
What I've Learned: Trials and tribulations will oftentimes bring you closer rather than drive you apart. You don't have to throw in the towel just cause times get rough, or an enchanted locket makes you think your girl is cheating with your bff. Those times will pass, and eventually you'll just realize you're probably just being too sensitive, or maybe you're sleep deprived, and maybe... just maybe you're a little possessed by an evil spirit. So, next time you are thinking that times are too rough to go on, think about whether or not you've touched any ancient scary items lately.
4. Aragorn & Arwen
Oh, beautiful love stories, of strife and happily ever afters; I think everyone loves them. With Aragorn and Arwen, it was a complicated from the start, considering Aragorn is a human and Arwen is an elf. Now this isn't a bigoted kind of situation, where elves don't want elves marrying humans and humans are the other way around. No, it goes much deeper than that, even though I'm sure there are those who frown upon it. If an elf marries a human, he or she will lose their immortality, and that's kind of a big deal. In the books, the first time Aragorn sees Arwen he is very young, and he automatically falls for her and her beauty.
In the end, Arwen and Aragorn live happily ever after, beautiful hair is everywhere, and they are so very much in love. Arwen ultimately decided immortality without Aragorn was torture, and she'd rather be mortal and spend her life with him. It's a beautiful story, and one of the many, many reasons I love Lord of the Rings.
What I Learned: The name of the game is sacrifice; everyone is going to have to make some in their lives. I would sacrifice anything to make my family happy, including Shawn, and I think Arwen was a good example of a strong woman who was willing to do anything for the one she loves. I see Arwen in my mom, my grandmothers, even my father, as well as myself, and think of how important it is to be selfless when it comes to love.
3. Homer & Marge Simpson
I feel like over time, The Simpsons has taught me so much. For such a silly show, it has life lessons quite often mixed in with the foul language, jaundiced skin and fart jokes. No other lesson sticks in my head quite like the example of Homer & Marge's relationship; they've taught me so much about what it truly means to be married and love someone. Homer is such a loveable oaf, who just tries so hard to make a good life for Marge and their family, and Marge is a headstrong and independent woman who keeps the family glued together and running. They are a team, with Homer being the breadwinner, and Marge being the breadmaker. Yes, Homer gets the family into binds a good bit of the time, but most of the time it is with the best intentions gone awry. He often worries about Marge being disappointed in the latest mess up on his part, but she once told him, "I don't hate you for failing, I love you for trying." And I think that sums it up fairly well.
What I've Learned: Relationships are about building a partnership, a friendship, where both parties are working together equally as best as possible. But it is also important to understand, that when you love someone, and you choose to be in a partnership with them, you have to be willing to pick up the slack whenever your loved one is unable to help, or can't help in a certain situation. Take Homer & Marge as an example. Homer messes up all the time and Marge still loves him; she also helps with the problems they are in as best as possible, because she is his shoulder to lean on just as much he is hers. Don't be too proud to let your companion to help you out if you fall short in some field. I mean, if you really suck at doing dishes, then let your companion do the dishes and you can do something else. It's like a scale that has to try to stay in balance and not tip over; it's okay if a little sand spills, just work together to keep it all from hitting the ground.
2. Gomez & Morticia Addams
Gomez and Morticia Addams are such a beautifully dark couple. From The Addams Family (the movies and the show, I loved them both), they were the mom and dad, the husband and wife, of the kooky family that gave the show it's name. If you don't know The Addams Family (sad for you) they are a family that lives in a big scary castle, full of torture devices and bats, and general 'creepycrawlyness', with a craving for the dark and bizarre. They are gothic and old-timeywimey, and I just love them. Morticia and Gomez have two children, Wednesday and Pugsley who are equally deranged, and generally little hellions, and their parents love them that way.
Gomez and Morticia basically set the standard for me as far as what I wanted my relationship with my husband to be when I grew up. They love each other so much, they are constantly confessing their love for each other and making kissy face at one another, even after two kids. Gomez is the embodiment of a true gentleman, and Morticia acts so classy (even with the creepy stuff the two of them are into) that I always wanted to be like them. Also, when Morticia speaks French who goes mad with passion for her, and gah... you just want someone to love you that much, you know? I also like how he calls her 'Tish' and 'Cara Mia' and all those adorable pet names; they just make you feel so mushy.
What I've Learned: It's okay to want to feel adored/ be adored. The way Gomez treats Morticia is complete and utter adoration, and the feeling is mutual. I've always wanted to be treated this way, and that's okay. You can be that in love; you can coo at your significant other and call them pet names and just want to be with them. Just remember, everyone doesn't express their love in the same way, so don't get hurt if your love doesn't act this way towards you; it doesn't mean they don't love you, it just means that that is not how they show their affection.
1. J.D. & Elliot Reed
Scrubs is basically one of my favorite television shows of ALL TIME, if not my very favorite. I've watched it all the way through several times, and put it on the television so I can go to sleep. Seriously. This might be borderline obsession with a show, and if you think I need help go ahead and refer me to someone; I'll appreciate the concern and then probably watch an episode or two of Scrubs to wash away the pain of your stinging words.
The characters J.D. and Elliot are two of the main characters on the show, both aspiring doctors and both kind of dorks. (If you trace their personality traits and know a little bit about me then you know that if they had a child, I'm pretty sure it would be me.) They fall in and out of love several times and are a classic example of a 'Will they or Won't they' couple. You as a viewer know that they are perfect for each other but for some reason they can't see it! Stupid fictional TV show characters! When will you get it right?
They do, thankfully, end up together in the end with one of my favorite episodes solidifying them as a couple, in which they go to Hawaii, and J.D. tells Elliot that he loves her more than Turk (his best friend) which, if you've seen the show, is a pretty big deal. (They have basically the biggest and best bromance ever, spawning the song "Guy Love". Seriously, search that stuff on Youtube, it's awesome. My article will be waiting.)
What I've Learned: Basically a bunch of all of the above, I mean, throughout the show, Elliot and J.D. (though there were times they wouldn't speak to each other) were very good friends, who adored each other, and over time built a strong partnership. In my eyes, once you get past the problems, we all knew that they would end up together because it was meant to be. You can learn so much from their relationship like what not to do, and what to do, because both of them had their own issues to work through to get their love to work. And a relationship is work, in the end, but it's a job that you should love and enjoy. J.D. and Elliot seemed like such a real couple to me, that went through real problems that I could learn from and relate to that I couldn't bring myself to put them any lower than my number one favorite.
As I'm finishing the list, please remember that these are just my personal favorites. If you have differing opinions of any kind, or can't believe that I didn't pick someone for my top ten, tell me! I'd love to hear what you've learned about relationships from fictional couples; I might learn a thing or two. Who are your favorite fictional couples? I found it so hard to list just ten, not to mention in any order, so please don't take anything I say as gospel, since my opinions could change tomorrow.
I definitely don't consider myself a relationship expert in any way, to be honest I'm quite the mess. But I have learned so much about myself, relationships and just life through television and film and everything in between. In fact, I might just go on a "learning marathon" this afternoon, since I'm pretty sure Scrubs or Charmed or something good is on. Beats the crap out of grocery shopping or other adult things.Hope you all enjoyed reading this, more to come soon from your average everyday GeekGirl. :)
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